As a newbie, it is not always easy to blend in and become part of something that others seem to do so naturally. This is especially true if the conversation is in Swedish, a language that you might not master yet. Here are some tips that might help, based on my own experience.
Observe the masters
I dare say that every group has at least one fika master, someone who can initiate, carry and lead a conversation so naturally that it is never boring to sit around them. Fika masters can turn the most trivial subject into something interesting and worth discussing. They are usually great storytellers and have strong social skills.
Tip: Identify the fika masters and observe them. You will not only improve the art of conversation but also have fun.
Keep it neutral… at first
The topics during a fika break can vary quite a lot, from trivial everyday matters like “I need to buy a new bag/bike/whatever” to questions such as “What are your plans for the weekend?”. As a newbie (not in Sweden, but in the group), it may be frowned upon if you start asking personal questions right away. Instead, keep it neutral until someone asks you something more personal. This might take a few (or a lot of) fikas, depending on the group, but it will happen.
Tip: You can also show that you are open to more personal topics by sharing something about yourself without being asked. For example, saying “I saw this movie with my girlfriend/boyfriend” instead of just “I saw this movie” gives your colleagues a glimpse into your personal life without revealing too much. Sometimes, that is the green light they need.
Find conversational themes
A lot can be said during a fika break. Comments about the weather are a good start, but they tend to run out quite fast. It is best to engage in a topic that anyone can join and feel happy participating in. The topic should be fairly neutral, not work-related, and interesting to everyone. That sounds difficult, but it really is not. Movies, sports, travelling and current events usually work very well.
Tip: Keep yourself updated on what is happening in Sweden. Read the news, check how local teams are doing, and see which events are coming up in your city.
Dare, be patient and never give up
I remember my first fika at work. I had just completed the first level of SFI at school and thought I could understand quite a lot and speak reasonably well if given some time to think. The real world proved to be very different. The fika room was full of people, many talking simultaneously, using slang and speaking in different tones and dialects. It was loud and confusing, and I felt lost and out of place, but I did not give up. I kept going and trying every day. A couple of months later, I could not only contribute to the conversation, but I had also improved my conversational Swedish more than ever. Nowadays, I still cannot follow every conversation, but I can sit comfortably in the fika room without feeling like an alien.
Tip: Remember that listening is also part of the process, so you do not have to feel forced to participate. Laugh along, smile and be present until you feel like one of them.
Happy fika!
One response to “Mastering the art of fika”
I could relate so well! Interesting and fun to read.